AVOID THESE MISTAKES IN YOUR SMALL GROUPS
"I'm gonna hug you and kiss you and love you forever," Elmyra Duff
This Tiny Toon loves any animal and anything cute to death - literally.
Don't make bold statements about how your relationship as a small group leader will unfold in their future. It's best not to set goals that make the attendee uncomfortable. Let relationships develop organically. Develop acquaintances that can grow into solid friendships.
Small Groups are easy.
If you have ever hosted a small group, you know that this is the farthest thing from the truth. People are complicated, and they will bring their complex lives into your small group.
I'm not going into the nuts and bolts of small groups here, but I will say this.
You will need to put work into it before, during, and after class.
Care for people outside of class; otherwise, they will never believe that you care for them during class.
Invest in yourself. Read, learn, and be mentored by someone who is a thriving small group leader.
Take the time to listen. Half the battles are always won when you shut up and listen.
Just play the video and read the questions.
Lack of preparation has killed more small groups than, than, than - Oh, I don't know. But a lot of them.
If there is a video - watch it before you play it.
If there are notes - read them before you use them.
If your group meets on Sunday - review everything the Monday before.
Don't tell them your "winging it." You just told them they are not worth your time or energy.
Fail to Follow Up
Here are a few things that you need to do.
Follow up on:
New Guests: After class, send them a text or email and thank them for attending.
Absentees: - After class, connect with them and say, "Missed you today, praying everything is ok. See you next time." (Or something like that.)
New Needs: - If you have time to receive prayer requests, then this is easy. But if you don't, you need to be listening for anything that is said relevant to your student and the moment. You can text them, "Is there anything we can do for you?"
Serious Needs: Some needs can go on for a long time: terminal illnesses, divorce, and others. You need a team of people who will help you follow up and care for others if you can pair someone who has gone through whatever the need is with the person in need.