But in the middle of it all, I had to remind myself of my "why." Now, of course, my 15-year-old ballerina of a daughter does have a lot to do with it. But there should be more. Every parent wants their kids to do well. But if we only focus on ourselves, then we are doomed to be lawnmower parents. You know the type. They will mow over anyone and anything.
Now, this isn't a parenting blog but hang in there. I think you will get the point.
When we make the world all about ourselves, our kids, our jobs, or whatever, we excluded everyone else. People that will love us and even help us. Worse yet, we teach our kids how to be selfish. That they are the only person on the planet that matters and that they should step on everyone else to get their way. (aka bullying).
Do we try to bully others, our spouse, or even God? I've seen people try, and in the end, they are all alone.
James 1:5, If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.
If you don't know what to do, ask God. He is willing to help you. He wants to - really!
Here are a few things you can do.
Instead of saying "me," try saying "us"! What are we doing together?
Encourage people to be their best. This doesn't mean that you ignore the negative - it means that you show compassion and courage. Give genuine compliments.
Value people as much as you value yourself. Don't look down your nose at others.
PRAY: Dear Jesus, help me to love those who may not love me and allow me to be a witness to them. AMEN