Over the years, I have heard people say, "I thought they were my friend!" But upon further investigation, it wasn't so much of a friendship as it was an agreement. You know the kind, "Scratch my back, and I'll scratch yours." This "give and take" type of friendship can work until someone asks too much, then (poof) the agreement is terminated.
Friendship is something of value. You give, expecting nothing in return. There is no need for "give and take" because it is and never was required.
The value of this friendship is so high that you will give it all in return for nothing.
John 15:13 13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.
Jesus gave His all because He is your friend. I know that seems odd. But He is. He did everything so He could do something for you.
If you practice this "friendship with value" principle, you already know that there are some people who don't get it. You're their friend, yet they still treat your friendship with the "scratch my back, and I'll scratch yours" mentality. They insist on giving back to you everything to do something for them. Be patient. There will come a day when you can give something they could never repay. Then they will see your pure heart.
Jesus did this. Most people think that Jesus wants to manipulate you and your life so He can get something He needs. (I laughed out loud at that.) God owns everything, including everything you own. He doesn't require you. He wants you. His grace, his unmerited, unearned favor, is given freely. You cannot deserve it, but you can ask for it. He freely gives His forgiveness to those who genuinely repent, turn away from their sin, desire never to return to it again.
Jesus is your friend.
PRAY: Dear Jesus, thank you for being my friend. AMEN