Showing posts from April, 2016

I'm Not Perfect

Y ou didn't have to say AMEN so loud. No this isn't a blog about every humiliating thing I have ever done.  That wouldn't be a blog that would be a book. This is a story about my journey from crazy to calm. I will admit that I am a reformed(ing)(ish) perfectionist.  But starting this journey wasn't easy for me.  It started with one question.  Why? "Why?" is a question that can make you defensive.  Why did you do this?  Why did you do that?  So asking a perfectionist the "Why?" question can be a direct threat to their existence.  They might think that the wrong answer would suddenly make them vanish into thin air.  Drastic?  Maybe - but true none-the-less. Most people think that perfectionists hate everyone.  Not true.  Perfectionists love people.  In fact, they may love them too much.  A perfectionist performs for the praises of others.  Without that praise, they will never feel, "perfect".  Praise gives them a sense

When Life Hands You Lemons.

When life hands you lemons, you make lemonade.  But how do you do that? You see, for most of my life, I just ate the lemons.  I didn't know how to make lemonade.  So here is my recipe. #1 - Admit you have a lemon. - Denial never makes a lemon sweet.  If life has knocked you down a notch or two - admit it.  Some people might find this disturbing, but be transparent.  In the long run, you will surround yourself with people who will help you. #2 - Don't ignore the lemon. - Ever let a lemon rot?  It is disgusting and it stinks!  Ignoring the obvious only delays and complicates your lemonade later. #3 - Do not give the lemon to someone else. - Blaming someone else for your own problems doesn't solve anything.  If you try, do not be surprised if they return your lemons at a high rate of speed. #4 - Find someone who has sipped their lemonade. - If you don't know what to do, find someone who does.  There are people who have been where you are.  Ask for their help.