Have you ever been in the car, with your family, and you're going out to eat. You're not really that hungry for anything so you ask, "Where do you guys want to eat?" You hear, "McDonald's! No, Burger King! How about pizza! Yech! Chick-Fil-A! No!" Then the thought crosses your mind that you should stop the car in the middle of this intersection, get out, walk away and don't look back. So, you make a decision, BBQ! "Oh no! Why here! Oh can't we go someplace else!" Now that you have made a decision, you have rebellion on your hands. Solution? They can eat at another table. The problem is simple. There was no purpose or reason for eating together as a family. The question was asked in such a way that individuals, not the family would answer it. There was no leadership, therefore, anyone stepped up to the plate and took charge. So when you finally make a decision no one wants to yield their position of new found authority and civil war ensue