Favoritism has been a plague in relationships for a long time.
When a parent says, "Why can't you be more like your sibling?'
When a teacher says, "I'm going to give attention you're supposed to receive to someone else because they deserve it."
When an employer says, "I'm going to promote this other person even though you are more qualified."
Just so that we understand what I am talking about when you take praise, reward or attention from one person and give it to another because you have judged them to be, "better" you've have:
- stolen what belongs to them and
- set yourself up as their judge.
Two things the Bible says are a sin.
So if you are showing favoritism, stop it. But what if you are the one who is being unjustly treated? What do you do?
The Bible says that if someone, who is a follower of Jesus, has offended you - go to them and work it out. Forgive them.
But what if they are not a follower? What do you do then?
Determine to treat them with respect. If you take this personally, you will respond emotionally, and that may not be the best idea you have ever had.
Ask for help. If you are in a situation where you're not old enough to speak out or strong enough, seek the counsel and direction of others.
Keep your head clear. When you do receive the opportunity to speak. Be clear, don't embellish or abuse the facts. Speak clearly and try not to settle in the phrase, "This is the way I feel...." Feelings can be misleading.
Pray for an opportunity to be a witness. Through all of this, may people see that you have integrity. While you may not resolve the situation for yourself, don't lead others to be embittered about what you are going through.
PRAY: Dear Jesus, help me to have the strength to face those who show favoritism and give me the correct words to speak. AMEN