James 4:10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will exalt you.
You can accept humility or be humiliated. They are not the same thing.
Accepting and embrace humility is to honestly embrace your life as is, faults and all. It is to admit that you need God and that without Him you have no hope. Humility makes to pretense about who you are. Humility takes a servants approach to life (notice I didn't say, slave). You want to help others from the goodness of your heart, not because you are better than them.
Being humiliated is the process of being exposed as a fraud in some way. That isn't to say that every area of your life is fraudulent. (Even though most people assume that.) But it is the painful removal of layers of shellac (pride) that you have used to cover up the truth.
Humiliation can be private between you and God. It can happen in a close, personal relationship. It can even be very, very public. It is always painful.
Admit you are the problem. When you go ahead and embrace it - it can't hurt you.
Welcome the wisdom of those willing to invest in your life. Pray for people who have, "been there and done that." Pray for people who will hear from God to help you. Pray for God to give you the wisdom to grow.
Be determined to change. Without this determination, you will never change. You have to be willing to make the sacrifice and even endure some pain to discover who you really are in Christ.
PRAY: Dear Jesus, I willingly submit my life to you today. AMEN.