How To Recover From Being Stabbed In The Back

I've been blogging about trust and betrayal all week.  As we approach Easter (April 16th) such things weigh heavy on my mind.

Why?  Because in some small way I can identify with Christ.  Or better yet, Christ can identify with me.

Hebrews 4:15 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin.

Jesus knew that someone would betray us.  A spouse, a business partner, an employee, a friend or even a family member.  He was aware that it would hurt and that there would be collateral damage.  But what can you and I do to recover from this?  Well, you have to make some choices.  

#1 - Don't take it personally.  This is hard but necessary.  If you take it personally, you will make the betrayer and their actions the center of your life.  Jesus is the center of your life, and anything that replaces Him is an idol.  

#2 - Mourn successfully.  I am not suggesting that you ignore what has happened, I am saying that you need a plan to move on.  Get help if necessary, but don't allow this to occupy your every waking and sleeping thought.  

#3 - Don't live in the past.  The betrayal can be an anchor in your soul that never allows you to move on.  I know people who decades later speak of a betrayal like it was yesterday.  Move on to a brighter future by choosing not to live in your past.  

#4 - Act by faith.  Understand that you cannot do this without God's help.  You will need God's strength to see this through.  Now you are going have to trust me on this one.  But I've tried it both ways, and clearly, God's path is the only path out of betrayal.  

PRAY:  Dear Jesus, I am so happy that you understand my life and what I am going through right now.  Please help me to move on from my betrayals and enjoy the rest of my life in your love.  AMEN. 


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