Families are weird.

I come from a dysfunctional family.  Oh, don't be surprised you do too.  The "perfect" families were on television.  AKA: It was all make believe!

I remember going to family holiday celebrations as a kid and wondering, "Why is my uncle so strange?  Why does my cousin act that way?"  They were valid questions.  When I would ask my mom or another family member about them, they would answer something like, "That's just they way they are."

Over the years I have discovered that some of my questions were valid.  As I watched these family members destroy their lives, marriages, and families.  I've also watched as some heeded the warnings of others and saved their lives and future.  After 53 years of life and I can tell you that one life can cause great pain or great joy to those closest to them.

Eph 2:19 So then you are no longer strangers and aliens, but you are fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God,

Household = family.  The church, that's the people who attend not the organization, is a family.  That's the way God created it.  I've seen some church families flourish and others self-destruct.  But here are a few things you need to know that will help you be an asset to your church family.

#1 Don't try to be perfect or expect perfection. When we place unreasonable expectations on ourselves or our church family failure will follow.  Usually, it will be painful.

#2 Be faithful.  Even the "black sheep" in my family can be counted on to come through in a pinch.  Jesus said, "Love one another."  That is a full-time calling for each of us.

#3 Be yourself.  Being yourself doesn't give you permission to let all your faults hang out like dirty laundry while you say with a crooked smile, "Gotta love me!" It means to be real.

PRAY:  Dear Jesus, help me to be the person you want me to be today and the person who my church needs me to be too.  AMEN.

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